so, is it partly the case that i really, really don't like being told what to do because i'm just not used to being told what to do? that authority is a weird, foreign concept that i've never experienced and don't understand?

there's probably something to do that, yeah.

but, i'd argue it's a more desirable way to organize society than one where we whip our children into shape by treating them like property or slaves.

there's some benefits of living in a society where people dislike being told what to do.