it is. it doesn't matter how consensual it is, it remains violent.
and, i just never developed a mean enough streak to be able to do it. it just seems stupid and ridiculous and primitive, to me. if i were to ever seriously try, i'd probably fall over laughing at the absurdity of it. i can't even imagine myself doing it. really.
i'm not an ideological pacifist, i recognize the utility of violent struggle, but i'm entirely submissive in just about any kind of personal context. and, that just doesn't make sense when attached to a heterosexual male gender role. i mean, i'm not going to bring you to orgasm with a good argument. sorry.
i guess if i could find a fully dominant female, it could work from her perspective, but it wouldn't be my fantasy. i would essentially be lending out my body, and i would remain in an impossible situation...