it's not about being withdrawn and distant because i'm sad and i hate myself, it's about being disinterested in participating in society because i think it's full of assholes and offers nothing of meaningful substance. i don't hate me, i hate you.
as the flaming lips song says,
"i believe in nothing, and you're convinced of the hex."
it's a fundamental difference. and, it would take five minutes for me to explain it to you, if you'd shut up and listen to me.