adults have a right to choose to be gay if they want. it's harmless behaviour. no state or social institution should be oppressing anybody for consenting, free choices made by adults.

but, orphaned kids placed with gay parents didn't have the ability to make that choice and it's not fair to make it for them.

my own position is that parents don't have and should not have rights, what they have is responsibilities that are to be defined in the context of the rights of the child. this is a next step from a "best interests of the child" policy to a "the kids have fucking rights" policy. i have a consistency in perspectives that the rights issues in all scenarios belong to the children and never belong to the parents. 

now, older kids (say older than 10) that can make that choice should be allowed to, if they opt to. some kids even know they're gay at that age, or end up without parents because they're gay. that is a special situation, gay people adopting gay kids, that allows for the child to consent and that actually makes sense.

it's placing newborns with gay adults that is making a choice on behalf of these kids that the placement agencies do not have the right to make and should not be making.

and, yes, being gay is a choice. the science is abundantly clear on the point. it's a complex choice, with voluntary and involuntary factors, but it's unambiguously and unquestionably a choice, and that choice should be respected, even if you think it's gross.

i don't usually call myself a liberal, but my position on the gays is right out of on liberty, which is a foundational text in canada, but doesn't tend to get much traction in the united states, where the issue is still defined by religion, which i was not raised in and don't care about. i am, nonetheless, expressing a viewpoint shared by a large plurality, or outright majority, of white northerners in the united states; it's a liberal or libertarian position, it's really not about accepting gay people into conservative society or letting them participate in conservative and religious institutions like marriage. however, because the issue only really exists politically in the south, they have warped and defined a narrative that really doesn't reflect how most people approach the issue.

most people think that the gays should be left alone so long as they aren't harming anybody, and that they're absolutely free to fuck however they choose and want, so long as it's consensual.