and the reason i don't go to gay bars - ever - is that i don't want to get hit on.

think of it like this: if you ever do go to a gay bar, you're going to find a group of straight women, there. always. every time. and, if you ask them why they're in the gay bar, they'll tell you that they just want to go out and dance and have fun without getting hit on.

that's exactly why i go to straight bars: because i just want to go out and dance and have fun without getting hit on.

i was at a straight bar that night. it was a friendly atmosphere. but it was not a gay club.

and the reason i'm pretty sure that the guy i regained consciousness next to did not touch me was that he was initially unaware of my anatomical configuration. that is, he thought i was a cis-female.

so, that's another reason it doesn't add up. if i was sober, and i was going to go along with it for some reason, i would have told him immediately. before any touching at all. and i was in a primarily straight club.

that doesn't make it impossible, of course. it just makes it that much more complicated, and that much more unlikely.