"so why don't you just be an effiminate dude?"
well, to a certain extent, i guess i am, right?
at the end of the day, i don't care whether you want to call me a trans-female or a total fag. these are just labels. boxes. and, i don't really see why you'd treat me any differently if you thought i was merely a complete fag, rather than a woman.
so, you can ask me: what's the difference?
well, i dunno. you're the one that's insisting on it, not me.