to be clear: i'm not technically a virgin.

i've had sex something like 350 times, all with the same person, in the period from 2002-2006. it was actually a lot of sex, in a short amount of time. but, she seemed to be enjoying it more than i was.

she liked sex. a lot.

but, it was never "heterosexual sex" in any kind of understood way. which is perhaps hard to grasp without getting graphic. you know the way you imagine boys and girls having sex, when you think of it? not necessarily missionary, but the general idea, anyways. well, it was never anything remotely like that. ever. at all. she seemed to want that, but realized it wasn't coming from me - and the mutual dissatisfaction just rendered the thing pointless, after a while. she used to complain that i was very good at getting her extremely worked up, like crazy aroused, but that i had no ability to finish the job - that i wasn't able to do the thing boys are supposed to do in that situation, and that we all imagine sex is like when we think of it. but, of course i wasn't able to do that - because i didn't want her to interpret me as a boy at all. i had a penis hanging there the whole time, but i was continually making a very conscious effort to avoid using it. she had to pin me down.

i've sworn off of it since. entirely.

so, i can say i'm a virgin in the sense of never really having sex in a male role - of never actually having intercourse in a masculine way. and, i haven't. but, i'm not a virgin in a technical sense, and i may have had more sex over those three or so years than a lot of people have in a decade.