actually, my perspective on dress codes is to request that you publish them ahead of time so i know to avoid your party or establishment. obviously, nobody likes meeting a bouncer that is going to refuse you entry based on your clothing. it's a frustrating and embarrassing situation for everybody. but, i'm not the kind of person that is going to change my appearance to fit it, or want to spend time in a place that enforces rules on what you can or can't wear. further, i fully reject all kinds of hierarchy - i'm an anarchist. so, i'm not going to like the people there any more than they're going to like me. the disinterest is mutual. i do not want to be at a party with a dress code.

if you publish it ahead of time, you can save everybody the hassle - i'll go somewhere else. and, i can launch into an argument about property rights, but it's ultimately inconsequential, in context. the best outcome is that we avoid each other.

i'd just request that communication around the issue be upfront and clear, well ahead of time.