even up until recently, there were ways out.
in the 40s, you had the kibbutz, if you were jewish. in the 60s and 70s and most of the 80s, you had hippie and punk communities out there where life on the margins of capitalism was possible, even if life outside of it wasn't.
but, everything got bought up in the 90s.
and, there really is nothing left - no way out.
well, unless you want to join a cult, i guess.
but, the basic question - why do so many poor people hate the government when they're so reliant on it? - is not so hard to understand. they know that the reason they're reliant on the government is that the government has passed policies that make them reliant on it, and then enforced those policies with extreme violence. you can't make that go away with bread and circuses. you can't force them to love their masters, or push the stockholm syndrome down with conditioning. the resentment is entirely rational.