the basis of the hate isn't anything to do with gender, though, and i'm not any more likely to hate you based on your gender than i am to like you or love you based on it.
i'm really sort of post-gender in a lot of ways - i don't really think it's an important concept in understanding the world, anymore, but a social construction erected by capitalism to divide and conquer.
and, that's what i really hate - capitalists, of all races and genders and backgrounds.