you just have to remember that the real bond of ownership is taxation, and the real people that own us - all of us, men and women together - are the people that tax us.
patriarchy is less a system schemed up by men to control women, and more a system schemed up by the state to ensure a steady stream of tax revenue.
abolishing patriarchy is consequently less about giving women freedom at the expense of men and more about giving serfs, peasants and slaves of both genders the freedom to define themselves in ways other than to maximize tax revenue for the elite.