i mean, to begin with, i wouldn't describe myself as this person's "ex-boyfriend"; while the relationship was complicated, "ex-partner" or even "ex-girlfriend" is a more accurate description.

second, when you've been friends with somebody for six, seven, eight years after a break-up, are you still that person's ex or are you just their friend? i'd argue for the latter, and to hear that i'm still being described as an "ex" is to introduce a dimension into the situation that i'd actually thought was long abolished.

but, in hindsight, this is somebody that didn't bother to close the door to urinate when we'd been broken up for five years. she was clearly hanging on to things that i'd long let go of.