this is a picture of me from a period where i identified as male (it's from 2004 - so i'm 23 in the shot):
i've had at least shoulder length hair pretty much consistently since the mid 90s. i shaved it a few times, but there really aren't very many pictures of me with short hair in existence (because i've basically never had short hair). the few i've seen look like mug shots. i've never styled my hair in any kind of short-haired male fashion kind of choice: never used gel, or anything like that.
there certainly aren't any pictures of me without my shirt on. i wouldn't even take my shirt off to go swimming. and i never went swimming, anyways. over the course of my entire adult life, i'm pretty sure that there's only one person in the entire world that's seen me without a shirt on. the idea that i'd take a picture of myself without a shirt on, let alone upload it to the internet, is insanity.
but, i never developed any kind of muscle mass on the top end of my body (or anywhere else, for that matter). the fact that i smoked aside, i was always in very good shape due to the large amounts of bicycling (2-3 hours a day at points) and walking i did, but it always came out in terms of toned arms and legs and never in terms of muscle mass.
the point is just that there aren't really "guy pictures" of me because i wasn't ever really much of a guy. the reality is that i spent my entire teens and 20s looking like i never really went through puberty. i never weighed more than 120 pounds; i was always stick thin. i always had long hair, often died blonde or orange or red. i tended to wear really nerdy button-ups, or plain t-shirts (or band shirts, but not much after about 2002). if you ever saw me in an outfit that was more bourgeois than that, there was a struggle to get me in to it.
why? because i just didn't want to. i was an outcast by choice: a nerd, a loner, a loser. i both found the idea of expressing masculinity to be boring and to be a poor reflection of how i felt.
the fact that i wore a tie on that day is really, honestly about as manly as i ever got. and i'm sorry if that's disappointing, but it's the truth of it.