if i'm going to a show, i'm going to a show. where the show is doesn't matter - i'm going to the show.

but, if i'm going for drinks, i want to avoid spaces where....what i'm concerned about is being mistaken for cis.

it depends, really. i feel safer in a mixed setting, usually, and i'm not too keen about getting hit on by gay guys, either. so, if i'm going to go dancing, i'd rather go dancing in a place that is mostly straight, so long as it isn't oppressively so - i'd rather be the weirdo, sort of thing. unfortunately, the bars on the strip in windsor are horrible places that are going to exert exaggerated concepts of hetero-normativity, and that i'm not going to want to go into, for that reason. i've never been into most of these places, but i've walked by there frequently, and it's enough to scare me off. i know i'm going to get stuck with some straight guy all over me when all i actually want to do is dance...

so, i'd feel safer in a queer bar.

but, there doesn't appear to actually be the option. it's a show at phog, or bust.