the basic point is that if somebody uses language with the intent to be offensive or harmful, that is their decision, and if it works in offending somebody then that means that the person was successful in expressing themselves with their choice of language. that is entirely valid, and there's nothing wrong with that. it's healthy to seek to express yourself as clearly as possible.

there is something wrong with and something extremely unhealthy about censors, government agencies or self-appointed language police trying to prevent people from a full range of emotions, or from freely expressing themselves. that is reflective of a sick society and a sick culture that needs help learning how to express their emotions freely.

if somebody's angry or frustrated or just descriptive, they have a fundamental and basic right to express that and nobody has any right to try to stop them. if you take some offense and get angry or sad, that's your problem and not theirs, and you should react by venting, yourself.