the iranians are not an equal at the table. their concerns are not to be taken seriously, and all they've done is isolate themselves and get themselves blown up, and it's just going to get worse. it is the very idea that they have any leverage to alter the outcome of the situation that is irrational, and it's driven by the delusion of their faith.
negotiation means compliance and a rational actor would understand that and comply.
when the iranians say "every time we talk to them, they bomb us", it's because they refuse to be rational and comply and submit to overwhelming military dominance, which has been the underlying situation for decades. they don't get it. there was no other outcome. the americans have been extremely patient, but time's up, and they have to submit and comply, or be slaughtered and erased from history. those are their choices, and the fact that they don't understand that is a function of their inability to reason rationally.
the americans keep giving them a chance to do what they're told, before they're blown up, and they continue to refuse, and continue to choose being blown up, and then lash out at their neighbours, who now also want to blow them up. they think they can win a war to control a strait and are going to force the americans to go in and do it instead of understand the inevitable outcome and save everybody the effort.
the iranians will themselves be forced to pay reparations to the countries around them via siphoning out profits from their oil sales. this is like the nazis demanding reparations for dresden.
once again, the choice iran has is to submit or die. that is the choice iran has had for forty years. time's up. our media calls that a "negotiation", and iran wants to pretend it is going to be allowed to negotiate. this is irrational. if they were rational, they would submit and avoid getting destroyed.
they can't submit or otherwise behave rationally because of their faith.
their god will save them.
it's pitiful. and they deserve what's coming.